This time, we'll introduce a few simple English phrases to use when you want to reduce or avoid attention you receive. Then we'll wrap up with some useful vocabulary and a short list of quotes related to modesty.

What Is Modesty?

Merriam-Webster defines modesty as "the quality of not being too proud or confident about yourself or your abilities." Basically, modest people do not brag about themselves, what they have or what they can do.

If you want to sound modest when speaking English, try using one of the following phrases in the appropriate situations.

Common Modesty Phrases

I dabble.

“Dabble” is an informal word that means "to do something lightly or not seriously." It’s often used when someone wants to suggest that they aren't very skilled at something — even if that isn't always true.

I dabble in photography, but I’m not great at it.

A

Do you cook?

B

Well, I dabble.

You’re too kind.

You can use this short phrase after receiving a compliment. It has a slightly formal feeling and is sometimes said in a joking way.

A

You look great tonight.

B

Oh, you’re too kind.

Thank you for the applause, everyone. You're too kind.

I do OK. / I’m comfortable.

These phrases are common when someone wants to avoid speaking about money or salaries directly.

A

Do you make a lot of money at your new job?

B

I do OK.

My small business isn't making me rich, but my wife and I are comfortable.

It’s nothing (really).

This is a classic modest response to praise. But be careful: The other person may interpret it as you saying something was easy for you to do — which can make you seem arrogant!

Adding “really” helps this to sound more modest.

A

Your piano performance was excellent.

B

Thank you, but it was nothing, really.

You can also use this phrase when someone thanks you for something you've done for them. In this case, the meaning is closer to "No problem" or "It's no big deal."

A

Thanks for helping me move this sofa upstairs. I couldn't have done it alone!

B

It's nothing. I was happy to do it.

Remember that while these phrases are useful for sounding modest, your body language, facial expressions and tone of voice also communicate to the people around you. If you use these phrases with no feeling, it may seem like false modesty, so use them carefully.

Other Vocabulary Related to Modesty

Modest

"Modest" isn't only for describing people; we also use it to talk about things that aren't flashy or luxurious.

They have a cozy, modest home on the edge of the town.

Jesse has a modest sense of style, so she doesn't wear bright clothes or wild designs.

Humble

"Humble" is an adjective meaning "not thinking too highly of one's own achievements, qualities, etc."

Even after a long and successful career, she has remained humble.

The noun form is "humility."

Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.

-C.S. Lewis (UK writer and scholar)

Down-to-earth / Grounded

These terms are often used to describe someone who thinks practically and realistically. But they're also useful for talking about people who are modest despite their success.

He was down-to-earth and very easy to talk to.

It's rare to meet celebrities who are still grounded even after years in the entertainment industry.

Play up/down

When you "play something up," you try to enhance its appeal or make it seem more interesting. For example, companies want to play up their products to customers, and politicians want to play up themselves to voters.

The politician took advantage of the opportunity to play himself up in front of the TV cameras.

The opposite of this expression is “play down," which is to make something seem less important than it actually may be.

Although he’s very successful, he always tries to play down his achievements. 

It can be used for modesty but also for information people want to keep secret.

After winning the lottery, Joe tried to play down how much his life had changed.

Quotes on Modesty

We’ll end this article by sharing a few related quotes from well-known or historical people. We hope you find something useful and interesting here!

"It’s far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help."

-Judith Martin (US writer and etiquette expert)

"He who speaks without modesty will find it difficult to make his words good."

-Confucius (Chinese philosopher)

"Modesty should be typical of the success of a champion."

-Major Taylor (US cyclist and writer)

"False modesty can be worse than arrogance."

-David Mitchell (UK novelist and screenwriter)

"Modesty and unselfishness: These are the virtues which men praise — and pass by."

-André Maurois (French author)

Wrap-up

Modesty is a tricky thing: Having either too much or too little of it can be negative. Regardless, hopefully this article has prepared you to speak about it with a little more confidence — but not too much!

Want to practice? Try these words and expressions out in a private lesson with an Engoo tutor!

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This article will introduce 11 that all English learners should know. Let's begin! 

Famous Names That Became Common Words

Einstein

Albert Einstein was a physicist from Germany who became world famous because of his scientific theories. 

Today, an "Einstein" is a genius or very intelligent person. 

You should ask Ron. He's a real Einstein when it comes to programming.

Scrooge

Ebenezer Scrooge is the main character of the 1843 novel A Christmas Carol, written by Charles Dickens. 

Scrooge begins the story as a cold-hearted businessman who only cares about money. That's why a "Scrooge" today is someone who isn't generous or friendly, especially during the Christmas season. 

Ben used to be a real Scrooge, but he offered to pay for everyone's lunch today. He's really changed!

Grinch

The Grinch is the main character in Dr. Seuss' 1957 children's story How the Grinch Stole Christmas. He's a fuzzy green monster who hates Christmas so much that he takes all the toys and decorations away from a town called Whoville.

Grinches are similar to Scrooges, but there's one big difference: A Scrooge might be greedy, hate Christmas or both, but a Grinch simply hates Christmas — there is no connection to money.

Janet is such a Grinch. She never comes to any holiday parties.

Romeo

Shakespeare's famous tragedy Romeo & Juliet is about a couple who fall in love while their families are at war — and it shows how far people will go for love.

Today, a "Romeo" is a man who is in love and perhaps has lost control of himself because of it. It's often used sarcastically, as in the following example:

A

She's the girl of my dreams…

B

Calm down, Romeo. You've only been on one date with her!

This isn't the only way "Romeo" is used, however. Sometimes its meaning is similar to the next name on our list.

Don Juan

The fictional character Don Juan first appeared in written stories in the 1600s. He's famous for being a womanizer, or someone who has casual sexual relationships with many different women.

While "Romeo" sometimes refers to a playboy, that nuance is much stronger with "Don Juan."

Kerry's a bit of a Don Juan. He's with a different woman every time I see him.

Hercules

Hercules is a legendary character from Roman mythology, famous for his amazing strength. Just like some other names on this list, he's appeared in many books and films throughout the years. 

Naturally, calling someone "Hercules" today means they're very strong.

I exercise only to keep healthy; I don't need big muscles like Hercules.

Sherlock Holmes

The brilliant detective Sherlock Holmes is the main character of a series of books by British author Arthur Conan Doyle. 

Holmes is very good at noticing small details that most people miss. This skill helps him solve difficult and mysterious criminal cases around England.

Calling someone "Sherlock" today is like complimenting them on their cleverness or ability to quickly solve problems. But it's often said as a joke when someone does not seem very intelligent.

A

I think we're lost.

B

Great job, Sherlock. We've been lost for the last 30 minutes!

Houdini

Harry Houdini was a famous illusionist, a special kind of magician who tricks the eyes of the audience. In some of his most famous performances, he escaped from locked boxes and underwater containers while being tied with rope or handcuffs.

When we call someone "Houdini" today, it's because they too are good at escaping difficult situations or because they have disappeared suddenly — like magic!

Let's do a Houdini and get out of here before they see us!

Barbie

Barbie is an American fashion doll created by Ruth Handler and first released in 1959. Since then, she has become an icon and a favorite toy for generations of girls.

But although she has many fans, others criticize Barbie; they say she isn't intelligent and has an unrealistic body, which could be harmful to girls who compare themselves to her.

These negative points are what people refer to when they call someone a "Barbie." Typically, it's a woman who is beautiful but shallow.

People treat her like a Barbie, so she works extra hard to prove that she isn't.

Barbie's boyfriend Ken often receives the same criticisms as Barbie. So a Barbie and Ken couple are seen as "perfect" in a fake way.

Ugh, those two are like Barbie and Ken in their Instagram posts. I can't stand it.

Rambo

John Rambo is the main character in a series of action films that started in the 1980s. He is a tough, deadly soldier who can complete extremely dangerous missions by himself.

A strong, violent person might be called "Rambo," but you may also hear it used sarcastically, so listen carefully to understand the nuance. 

Mark tries to act like he's Rambo, but he's not so tough.

Frankenstein

In Mary Shelley's 1818 novel Frankenstein, Dr. Victor Frankenstein builds a man from the parts of dead bodies. When his creation comes alive, it begins a horrible series of events that affect everyone around him.

Although the monster doesn't have a name in the story, it's often called "Frankenstein's monster" or simply "Frankenstein." 

We use this name today in two different ways. 

1. (noun) • a creation that becomes dangerous to its creator

Some people are worried that AI will become a Frankenstein's monster that we can't control. 

2. (verb) • to make something from the parts of other things

I Frankenstein'd this radio out of some old equipment I found in my garage.

You may also hear "Franken-" as a prefix referring to something created from other things, as in the example below.

I had lots of different ingredients in my refrigerator, so I put them all into the pot and made a Franken-stew! Want to try it?

Wrap-up

Most people in English-speaking countries will know these names even if they don't know details about the people behind them.

For English learners, using them will add color to your conversations and make you sound much more like a native speaker, so be sure to give them a try!

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In this article, we'll explore some useful phrasal verbs and idioms using "run." Let's go!

Phrasal Verbs With "Run"

Run low on ~

When your supply of an item or resource is almost gone, you're "running low on it." You can use this phrasal verb to talk about both literal and figurative things.

We're running low on gas, so let's stop at the next gas station we see.

Our client is running low on patience; we need to finish this project soon.

Run out of ~

If a resource is completely gone and there's no more of it, you've "run out" of it.

I ran out of time before I could answer every question on the test.

Make sure you have your credit cards in case you run out of cash.

Run across

When you "run across" something, you notice it even though you weren't searching for it.

I was shopping for pants, but I ran across some nice shirts for a good price.

Run by/past (someone)

You "run something by" (or "past") someone when you ask for their opinion or to get their approval.

We need to run this by our manager before we can approve the project.

If I want to make a big purchase, I always run it by my wife first.

Run into 

Meaning 1: to meet someone by chance or without a plan

I ran into an old friend from high school this afternoon. We haven't seen each other in years!

Meaning 2: to hit, to collide with

The car lost control and ran into a pole on the side of the road.

Run along

"Run along" is used in the imperative form to tell someone to leave.

Note that this is normally only said to children; saying it to an adult would be very rude.

Run along and play outside, kids. We'll come get you when it's time to go.

Run around with

This casual phrasal verb means "to hang out with" or "to spend time with." It often has a negative nuance.

I'm worried about the kids my son is running around with after school.

Run off

Someone "runs off" when they leave quickly or suddenly.

A

Where's Connie?

B

She ran off a few minutes ago. She said she was late for a meeting. 

Other Common Expressions With "Run"

Run down

"Run down" is an adjective that means "in poor condition."

We bought a run down house for really cheap. If we work hard, we can turn it into a great place to live.

You can also use this expression to talk about people who are exhausted or stressed.

Meg had been feeling run down for weeks, so she decided to take a vacation to relax.

On the run

Someone "on the run" is trying to avoid being captured by police or other authorities!

The bank robbers were finally caught after being on the run for several weeks.

Run errands

An errand is a small job or task; think of it like a chore you must leave your home to do. However, instead of saying "do errands," we say "run errands."

I have to run a few errands this afternoon, but I'll be free later.

Run one's mouth

This expression is a negative way to refer to someone who talks too much. For example, you might say that someone who often gossips is "running their mouth."

Jackie's always running her mouth and spreading rumors about people. I wish she'd shut up!

This is similar to the expression "big mouth," which is a noun.

Run something into the ground

This phrase refers to leading or controlling something in a way that leads to its destruction.

The CEO was pressured to resign after his controversial decisions ran the company into the ground.

Runaway success

Something that becomes very successful very quickly is said to be a "runaway success."

The animated film KPop Demon Hunters became a runaway success when it was released in June 2025. 

Wrap-up

If this article was helpful for you, we have good news: There are many more just like it! For more useful phrasal verbs, check out this post.

Finally, don't forget to book a 25-minute English lesson with an Engoo tutor to try these expressions in a real conversation!

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But if you want to talk about movies in English, you'll need to know some special vocabulary. This article is the second in our series on essential words for movie fans; if you haven't yet, you can read the first part here.

Now, it's showtime!

(Even More) English Movie Vocabulary

Spoiler

One meaning of the verb "spoil" is "to go bad or become rotten" (so that something is no longer good to eat or drink).

But you can also "spoil" a movie for others if you reveal important information about it before they've seen it.

Warning: This review contains spoilers. If you haven't watched the film yet, stop reading now!

It can also be used as a verb.

James has a bad habit of spoiling movies. Luckily, spoilers don't bother me much.

Teaser / Trailer

Teasers and trailers are short video ads for movies. Usually, teasers are shorter and are released first. They generally show very little of the film; instead, their purpose is to get people excited to see more, which is one of the basic meanings of the verb "tease."

The teaser for the new film has created a lot of buzz on social media.

Trailers are released after teasers. They're longer and show many more scenes from the film — and if you don't like spoilers, they might show too much!

The trailer was released this afternoon, but it's already gotten millions of views on YouTube.

Cameo

Cameos are short appearances by someone in a film. Because they usually aren't announced or advertised, cameos by famous people are often fun surprises for audiences.

Because he only made a brief cameo in the film, the actor didn't ask for any money.

Twist

As a verb, "twist" means "to turn or bend something," often changing its shape. As a noun, however, a twist is a sudden or surprising change in a story.

The movie became famous for the shocking twist at the end.

Cliffhanger

A cliffhanger is a sudden ending to a film that doesn't complete the story. Instead, the audience can only wonder about what happens next.

Cliffhangers are often very dramatic and are designed to make viewers excited for the sequel.

The movie ends on a cliffhanger, so we'll have to wait for part two to see how the story ends.

There's also a Hollywood movie from 1993 called Cliffhanger. Here, however, the meaning is more literal: It's about a climber who has many dangerous experiences on cliffs, or very steep rock surfaces.

Stinger

Stingers are very short scenes that appear at the end of a movie, usually after the end credits. 

While most people leave the theater when the credits begin, fans of certain types of movies know they may see something extra if they wait.

Stingers are sometimes called "post-credit scenes."

Movies in the MCU are famous for stingers that give hints about what — or who — may be coming in a future movie.

Everyone in the theater stayed until the end of the credits, hoping to see a stinger.

Easter eggs

Many children enjoy decorating eggs to celebrate the Easter season. But some also have Easter egg hunts, in which they have to find eggs that have been hidden in different locations.

How does this relate to movies?

Well, movies based on things like comic books or video games will often have small hints that refer to characters or events that don't appear in the movies directly.

Most people won't notice these hints, but just like real Easter eggs in a hunt, big fans enjoy finding these small details.

The director likes putting Easter eggs into his films and seeing if fans can discover them.

Tentpole

A tentpole is a very long pole that holds up and supports a tent, like you can see on camping grounds or even at the circus.

In the movie industry, however, tentpoles are films that are expected to be very popular and successful. These films are usually in the action, science-fiction and adventure genres.

"Tentpole" can be used as an adjective or a noun for the film itself.

Tentpole films are usually released in the summertime or shortly before it.

Just because tentpoles get a lot of promotion doesn't mean they'll be successful.

Sleeper hit

Unlike tentpoles, which often have big stars and lots of marketing, other films may not have famous actors or much money for promotion. These films often don't get as much attention, but sometimes they surprise everyone by becoming very popular. These films are called "sleeper hits." 

The positive word-of-mouth helped the small, independent movie become the sleeper hit of the year.

Bomb

In the film industry, "bombs" are unsuccessful movies.

While any movie can be a bomb, this word is often used for big films that cost a lot of money to produce.

Many movies that were bombs when they were originally released are now considered classics by movie fans.

You can also use “bomb” as a verb.

Many movies that bombed when they were originally released are now considered classics by movie fans.

Tearjerker

As a verb, “jerk” means "to pull quickly." So we call movies that make you want to cry “tearjerkers” since they pull the tears from your eyes!

That movie is a real tearjerker. Make sure you have some tissues handy when you watch it!

Rotten Tomatoes 

Rotten Tomatoes is the name of a famous website for movie reviews. It launched in 1998 and has become very influential in the film industry. 

On the site, movies are given a rating between 0 and 100%. Films with a rating between 75 and 100% are “Certified Fresh.” "Fresh" movies get a special tomato icon that's often used in advertisements to encourage people to watch it.

On the other hand, movies with a rating of 59% or lower are considered “Rotten,” which obviously isn't good for the movie's reputation.

The site’s name likely comes from the fact that in the early entertainment industry, people would throw rotten fruit and vegetables at poor performers to make them leave the stage!

Wrap-up

If you want to improve your English while chatting about your favorite films, book a lesson on Engoo!

Find a tutor who also enjoys films by typing "movies" or the title of your favorite film in the search bar. Just remember to use some of the vocabulary we've introduced here in your lesson! 🍿

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This time, we'll introduce some useful English vocabulary and phrases for bargaining. Study more to spend less!

Asking About Prices

Before you can negotiate for a lower price, first you need to know the original price. 

If you don't see a price tag on an item, try one of these phrases:

• "Excuse me, but there are no prices on these."
• "These items don't seem to have prices on them."
• "Can you tell me how much this is?"
• "Have these been priced yet?"

Asking for a Discount

Now that you know the price, try these phrases to see if the seller is willing to bargain.

"Is there room for negotiation?"

This phrase is simple and straightforward. If they say yes, getting a lower price is possible. If not, you'll either have to pay the original price or shop somewhere else.

"Is there any wiggle room (on the price)?"

"Wiggling" is moving slightly from side to side. When looking for discounts, "wiggle room" means the possibility of a price changing (by going down!).

"Can I get a discount if I buy (#)?"

A good way to get a lower price is to buy more than one item. So if you need multiples, ask if the seller can drop the price for you.

"Do you price match?"

Many sellers have a price-match guarantee; if their competitor is selling the same item at a lower price, they will match it. If you're not sure if a store offers this service, it doesn't hurt to ask!

"What can you do for me?"

This is a very informal phrase you can use to ask if lower prices are possible. For example:

I'm interested in this refrigerator, but is there anything you can do for me on the price?

"Can you do anything for me?" is another common phrase with the same meaning.

I'd like to buy these sweaters, but the prices are a bit high. Can you do anything for me?

"Shop around"

If you're not sure if a seller is offering the best price, you may decide to "shop around," or research prices from other sellers.

If you tell a seller you want to shop around before buying, they may offer you a discount.

Hmm, I think I'll shop around before making a decision.

Negotiating Prices

In order for both you and the seller to be happy, you'll have to compromise on a final price. Use these phrases to help you reach an agreement.

"Will you accept __?"

This simple phrase asks if a price is acceptable to the seller.

Will you accept $25 for these three books?

"Can you do __?"

When bargaining, people often use "do" as a casual alternative to "accept."

$200 is a bit too much for me. Can you do $175?

"Can you meet me in the middle?"

Imagine that you offer to pay $100 for an item and the seller counteroffers with $130.

From here, you can suggest "meeting in the middle" — cutting the price difference in half. So in this case, meeting in the middle would mean the final price is $115 (100 + 30 - 15 = 115).

Another way to express this idea is "meet halfway."

Buyer

The listing says $80, but that's too high. Will you accept $60?

Seller

Let's meet halfway and say $70.

Other Useful English Vocabulary for Bargaining 

Ask

If a seller is "asking" for a particular price, it means they're willing to accept less, if necessary.

I'm asking $25 for both shirts.

Firm

When discussing prices, "firm" means that a price cannot be changed.

All prices are firm — no discounts.

Obo

"Obo" is short for "or best offer." 

If a seller receives multiple offers to buy their item, they will accept the offer that is the highest or closest to their original price.

The item is in great condition and includes the original box. $85 obo.

Only use "obo" when writing; if you're speaking, say each word, not the letters. 

The price is $100, or best offer.

Haggle

Buyers and sellers "haggle" when they negotiate prices. 

None of the prices in this market are firm; you can haggle at all of the shops.

I haggled at the car dealership and was able to save a few thousand dollars on my new car.

Bargain

As a verb, "bargain" is a synonym for "haggle." 

I asked my friend to do the bargaining for me since he's much better at it than I am.

Budge

If something "budges," it moves a very small distance.

When bargaining, this refers to a change in price. "Budge" is often used in questions and in negative sentences.

That's more than I'd like to spend. Can you budge on the price?

I'm sorry, I can't budge; the price is firm.

In the examples above, notice that "budge" refers to the seller, not the price.

Throw in

This casual phrasal verb means adding something as a free extra. 

If you buy five stickers, I'll throw in another for free.

I'll buy all the games for $200 if you throw in a controller too.

Related article: New to Phrasal Verbs? Start Here!

Make someone an offer

If an item has no price, some sellers may ask you to "make an offer." This means you pick a price you want to pay; the seller may accept that price or make a counteroffer of a different amount.

You might hear this phrase (or the similar "shoot me an offer") in places like flea markets or when asking to buy something that was not originally for sale. 

Buyer

Excuse me, can you tell me how much this jacket is?

Seller

Make me an offer.

Buyer

How about $45?

Seller

Sixty.

Buyer

Will you accept $50?

Seller

Sure. We've got a deal.

Wrap-up

If you're going shopping in markets, bazaars or even online, knowing the right bargaining phrases and vocabulary can help you get more bang for your buck!

Before you negotiate for real, we recommend practicing with an Engoo tutor. Engoo has thousands of friendly and professional tutors ready to help you 24 hours a day. 

Finally, check out this post for more useful English related to money.

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However, even though we all enjoy sunny days, it's more common for people to complain about weather that isn't so great — and cold winter days are the perfect example.

This time, we'll introduce some common words and expressions you can use in small talk or chats with friends when it's cold outside. Give them a try!

English Adjectives for Cold Weather

Chilly

"Chilly" is a great word to use when the weather is cold but not too cold.

The forecast says it will be chilly later in the week.

Nippy

This is an informal adjective that's similar to "chilly."

Although yesterday was nice, it's surprisingly nippy out today.

Note that it's common in American English to simply say "out" instead of "outside."

Brisk

"Brisk" refers to cool air that feels refreshing. This is one of the few vocabulary words we'll introduce that has a positive nuance!

Going for a jog in the brisk morning air is a nice way to start the day.

Freezing

This is a common term people use when it's very cold, either indoors or outdoors.

You should put on a cap — it's freezing outside.

"Freezing" isn't just for the weather; you can also use it to talk about how you feel.

I'm freezing. Can you turn on the heat, please?

Frigid

This adjective describes weather that is extremely cold.

Notice how this word is similar to "fridge," the shorter version of "refrigerator," a machine used to keep foods cold.

I visited Toronto in February, and it was absolutely frigid outside.

Frigid can also describe a person with a very unfriendly attitude or facial expression.

I asked John for help, but he was totally frigid.

Bitterly cold

When it's "bittery cold," the temperature is extremely low and it's very unpleasant to be outside. 

Chicago is a great city in many ways, but the winters there can be bitterly cold.

English Cold Weather Expressions

Bundle up​​

This is a phrasal verb that means wearing many layers of heavy clothes to protect against cold weather.

Make sure to bundle up if you're going outside.

It's time to go, kids. Bundle up!

It's (really) coming down.

This phrase is a casual way of saying it's snowing (or raining) very heavily.

It's really coming down outside. All of the roads are closed.

Snowed in

Snowfall can sometimes be so heavy that it becomes difficult for people to leave their homes. In those cases, we use the expression "snowed in."

Most of the town was snowed in after the big winter storm.

Related article: Vocabulary and Expressions Related to Natural Disasters

Snow day

Children in areas with lots of snow always get excited by the possibility of a "snow day." These are days in which there is so much snow that schools close so students can stay safe at home.

I spent the snow day playing video games and reading comics in my pajamas.

Shiver

"Shiver" is a verb that describes the way people's bodies shake when they're cold.

We shivered on the corner while we waited for the bus to arrive.

I can't feel my face.

Very cold weather can sometimes make us lose feeling in different parts of our bodies.

I couldn't feel my face after spending a few minutes outside.

Brrr!

This short, simple expression helps people communicate how cold they feel. If you're wondering how to pronounce it, just think of "fur," but make the sound a little longer.

Brrr! It's freezing today! I should've worn a heavier coat!

Wrap-up

Don't forget that adjectives for weather are often used together with adverbs like "quite," "pretty," "totally" and even "super." For example:

• super cold
• a bit chilly
• quite nippy
• absolutely freezing

Be sure to learn them all so you'll be prepared no matter what combination you hear when talking about the weather with friends or tutors. 

Stay warm and study hard! 🧣

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This article will introduce casual dating expressions, including special vocabulary for text messaging, relationship types and even specific dating styles. Keep reading to learn it all!

English Dating Slang

Red/Green/Beige Flag

When talking about dating, people often mention "flags" with different colors, each one representing something different. 

Red flags are signs that a potential romantic partner may be dangerous or simply not a good match.

He had a pack of cigarettes in his jacket. That's a red flag; I hate cigarette smoke.

Green flags are the opposite — things you like or appreciate in a partner. This term isn't used as often, however.

So what's a "beige flag"? Something in the middle: Beige flags indicate unusual habits or traits that are neither very good nor very bad.

Jo arranges the food in her fridge in alphabetical order! That's a bit of a beige flag, but we're still dating.

Stashing

If you "stash" something, you put it away or out of sight.

For example, a child may quickly stash some candy so their teacher doesn't see it, or you may stash a little bit of money to avoid spending it all now.

So how does this relate to dating? Well, if you're in a relationship with someone, but you've never met their friends or family, your partner might be hiding — or stashing — you from them!

A

We've been dating for six months, but he won't post pictures of us on social media.

B

It sounds like he's stashing you.

Situationship

If something is more than a friendship but not quite a serious relationship, it's probably a "situationship."

This word is a "portmanteau," or a word created by combining two other words' sounds and meanings. In this case, we have a combination of "situation" and "relationship."

Situationships often cause one or both partners to feel confused or frustrated because things aren't clear.

A

So, are you two dating?

B

Not really. It's a … situationship.

Benching

This word comes from sports, when a coach makes a player sit on the bench instead of play. In this usage, it's a verb, as in, "If you make that mistake again, I'm benching you."

In dating, "benching" someone means not giving them your full attention, perhaps because your feelings for them aren't very strong. Like a benched athlete, that person is still in the game but isn't actually "playing."

I feel like he's benching me. He's never serious about meeting or hanging out.

Ghosting

There are a few spooky-sounding words on our list, and the first is "ghosting."

Ghosting someone means suddenly ending communication with them. Like a ghost, it's like you've disappeared! 

Ghosting is a rude thing to do to someone, and being ghosted can be frustrating, especially if you felt like you had a good connection with the other person.

I thought we were getting along well, so I was surprised when she ghosted me.

Zombieing

The opposite of ghosting is "zombieing." 

What if the same person who ghosted you a few months ago suddenly contacts you again without an explanation? Your relationship with this person was "dead," but now it's back! Sounds like a zombie, doesn't it?

I just got zombied by Terry. He hasn't called me in months!

Haunting

"Haunting" is our final scary word, and it's the lighter version of zombieing.

Imagine that you ended a relationship with someone and you two no longer speak. However, sometimes that person "likes" something you post on social media. Even though you don't see or talk to them anymore, they're still watching what you do online. You're being haunted!

Sophie just liked another one of my posts. It's been six months; I wish she'd stop haunting me and move on!

Related article: Spooky Halloween Idioms You Can Use All Year

Cuffing season

Fall and winter are popular times to begin relationships. People like the comfort of a partner when the weather gets cold and when holidays like Christmas are near.

That's why the end of the year is sometimes called "cuffing season." It comes from the word "handcuffs" — the nuance is that you're attaching yourself to someone.

Will the relationship last when spring comes? That depends on the couple …

It's almost cuffing season, so Mei's been going on a lot of dates recently.

Freckling

Freckles are the small brown spots that some people have on their faces or other parts of their bodies. Freckles can appear or become darker when the skin is exposed to sunshine.

Unlike cuffing season, "freckling" is dating specifically in the warmer months of the year but usually not after that. These kinds of relationships are also sometimes called "summer flings."

It was just freckling; we didn't see each other after September.

It was just a summer fling; we didn't see each other after September.

(If you want to learn more summertime expressions, we have an article full of them here! ☀️)

Dawn dating

Dawn is the time of day when the sun begins to rise. Most people's idea of dates involve activities in the evening, such as dinner, late movies or perhaps cocktails at a bar.

But what about meeting early in the day instead? That's exactly what dawn dating is — going on dates before noon.

A

So far, we've met for breakfast and a few morning jogs.

B

Dawn dating, huh? I should try that.

Slow fade

People often don't want to hurt someone's feelings by suddenly ending communication with them.

Instead, they may take longer to respond to messages and generally be less active in the other person's life … until they're eventually gone completely. This is called the "slow fade."

The slow fade helped me avoid having an uncomfortable break-up conversation.

Simp

This is a very casual term for a person — usually male — who tries too hard to get the attention of a romantic partner. The nuance is that the person is weak or too eager to please the person they like.

Johnny is such a simp; he'll do absolutely anything his girlfriend tells him.

Thirsty

Normally, "thirsty" simply means that someone wants something to drink.

As slang, however, it refers to a strong desire for romantic attention from someone. It usually has a negative nuance.

The bar was full of thirsty university students ready to party on their spring break.

Ever since she broke up with her boyfriend, Chelsea's been acting really thirsty. 

Talking / Seeing

Yes, even simple words like these have new meanings in the world of dating!

When two people are "talking," they're moving toward a romantic relationship but they're not there yet; they may or may not begin dating officially.

She and I have been talking for a little while, but we're not really a couple.

On the other hand, if two people are "seeing" each other, it means they're a real couple.

Miles and Gwen have been seeing each other for a few months now.

DTR

This acronym stands for "Define The Relationship."

As we've seen from some of the other terms on this list, it can sometimes be hard to know what kind of relationship people are in; are they only friends, are they dating or are they somewhere in between?

DTR refers to the act of clearly deciding what the relationship status is. No more guessing!

I really want to know if Jun feels the same way I do. It's time for the DTR talk.

Wrap-up

Like all slang, new dating terms are always appearing while others disappear. But the basic ups and downs of dating will never change, so people will likely always have creative ways to talk about it!

For more useful English slang, check out our focus article here.

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What Does "Softening" Mean?

You "soften" your language when you speak less directly and avoid blaming or judging others. Instead, your communication is more neutral and open.

For example, calling someone "overweight" sounds much different than saying they're "fat." In a similar way, telling a coworker, "I'm not sure I agree" isn't quite the same as "No, that's a bad idea."

Softening is useful for sharing opinions, giving feedback and making requests politely. That means it's a helpful tool in many situations. Let's look at some different ways to make our language softer.

Softening Feedback

Think about these situations:

• Your partner asks how their cooking tastes.
• A new employee wants to know what you think of her report.
• Your artist friend wants your opinion of his new painting.

When we're asked for feedback and we only have positive things to say, we can usually speak freely. But when you think something could be better, you'll want to be careful when giving your opinion.

Most of the time, critical feedback should be given in a way that mentions where someone can improve without discouraging them from trying again.

Adding a positive statement

A great way to soften your feedback is to add a positive statement to lessen the impact of the criticism. Look at the following pairs of examples:

• This cake is too dry.
• I really like the icing, but I think the cake needs more milk.

• The conclusion needs to be improved.
• The introduction and body are great, but the conclusion could be stronger.

The first sentences are a little too direct. The second sentences are softer because they include good points alongside the criticism.

Responding to incorrect answers

No one enjoys being told they're wrong, especially in a direct way. So "no," "incorrect," "wrong," etc. are poor choices to express this. Even adding a simple "Sorry, but ~" will soften your language a lot.

However, there are also other options you can use:

• Good guess! But the correct answer is ~
• That's close! Actually ~
• Not quite. The answer is ~
• Well, not exactly. It's actually ~

Of course, with very close friends, you don't have to be so careful. But for other times, a softened correction will help to keep the communication friendly and positive.

Using qualifiers

Terms like "a bit" and "a little" are simple, effective ways to soften language. Let's look at how to use them when expressing your opinion.

• Your music is too loud.
• Excuse me, but your music is a bit too loud.

Both statements say the same thing, but the sentence with "a bit" doesn't sound as aggressive or judgmental.

You can replace "a bit" with "a little" or "slightly" to get the same effect.

This sauce is a little too spicy. / This sauce is slightly too spicy.

The opposite of this is "not quite ~~ enough."

This sauce isn't quite spicy enough. Add some more seasoning!

Softening Requests

Just like feedback and opinions, questions and requests can be softened with the right words and phrases.

While adding a simple "please" to your request is nice, try some other options for a stronger softening effect.

Asking about ability

One soft way of making a request is to ask if someone is able to do something for you.

• Please take out the garbage.
• Can you take out the garbage for me, please?

• Please pass the salt.
• Could you pass the salt, please?

These requests are basically all the same, but the second examples are much more polite.

Using "we" instead of "you"

Try using "we" and "let's" to encourage a feeling of teamwork and shared responsibility. This is especially useful if you don't agree with someone's idea or method.

A

I want to make this whole section red.

A

How about we make just this area red and try black for the other part?

A

Should I do it all now?

B

Let's focus on the first part for now. We'll do the rest later.

Wrap-up

There are times when using direct, straightforward language is the best choice. But generally, softening what you say will create a friendlier feeling that can help your relationships to stay healthy.

The suggestions we've introduced here may seem small, but their effects can be large. If you'd like to practice using them in a real conversation, give them a try in a lesson with an Engoo tutor!

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For example, there's Super Bowl Sunday in February, Sadie Hawkins Day in November and Black Friday just after Thanksgiving. 

But this time, we're looking at a day that focuses on a small, furry animal that people say has the power to see the future! If you're curious about Groundhog Day and how it's celebrated, read on to learn more.

What's a Groundhog?

Groundhogs are a kind of mammal that can be found in the eastern parts of the United States as well as Alaska and Canada. They look a bit like large squirrels, with furry bodies that can grow to about 68 cm (or almost 27 inches).

Groundhogs have short tails and small, powerful legs that let them dig into the ground with ease. They're very intelligent animals and can even whistle to communicate with one another.

They are also known by several names, including woodchuck, whistlepig, Canada marmot and monax. Monax means "digger" in the language of some groups of Native American people.

The History of Groundhog Day

Now that we know a bit about groundhogs, what is Groundhog Day?

To understand, we must go back to a traditional European religious festival called Candlemas. On February 2, Christians would bring candles to church in order to receive blessings, or good fortune, for the remaining winter days.

When this tradition was brought to Germany, a new detail was introduced: if a hedgehog (another small mammal) came out of the ground and saw its shadow on Candlemas Day, winter's bad weather would continue for six more weeks. 

When German immigrants arrived in America, they brought this festival with them. In the US, however, the special animal was changed from a hedgehog to the groundhog we have today.

How is Groundhog Day Celebrated?

In reality, of course, a groundhog's shadow has no connection to the weather. However, people still enjoy the idea of these furry creatures "predicting" the end or continuation of winter on the second day of February each year.

Today, one of the biggest Groundhog Day celebrations takes place in Punxsutawney, a town in the US state of Pennsylvania. Here is where it is said the festival was first mentioned in a newspaper, back in the year 1886.

Since then, the town has hosted a big celebration each year, with people from around the country coming to see the famous groundhog "Punxsutawney Phil" and to enjoy talent shows, food, music and dancing.

This town and its celebration got a big boost in popularity after the release of the film Groundhog Day in 1993. The movie takes place during the festival and is about a man who lives the same day over and over in a strange time loop.

Wrap-up

Although the most famous festival happens in Punxsutawney, Groundhog Day is celebrated in cities across the US and Canada.

But even if you can't visit these places yourself, you can still watch a live stream of an event to see if the groundhog will see its shadow!

If you'd like to learn about other special days in the US, read our focus article, which collects all of our holiday posts.

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This time, we'll introduce 16 music-related expressions that are useful in casual chats with friends and even in formal business settings. Let's begin! 🎵

English Music Idioms

Good note / Bad note

The very beginning and end of an interaction can have a big influence on our overall feelings. In English, fluent speakers often compare these moments to the first and last notes of a song.

Jesse wanted to start her new job on a good note, so she brought doughnuts for her co-workers.

The meeting ended on a bad note when the negotiations failed.

March to the beat of one's own drum

Some people choose to do things differently than others. Their uniqueness may come from their attitude, their fashion or their way of thinking. 

We can describe people like this by saying they "march to the beat of their own drum."

I admire Jane for marching to the beat of her own drum. She's very confident and doesn't mind standing out.

Sing a different tune

This expression is used when someone changes their mind about something — as if they're switching from one song (or tune) to a different one.

This is often said sarcastically or as a warning. 

You're not bringing a jacket? It's warm now, but you'll be singing a different tune when the sun goes down.

Get into the rhythm

Musicians often struggle to play a song they've never played before. In a similar way, when trying a new activity, you may not understand how to do it correctly at first.

If you keep trying, however, you'll eventually "get into the rhythm," when you're doing it comfortably and naturally.

It took me a little while to get into the rhythm at my new job, but now I feel quite comfortable.

It's also common to say "get into a rhythm."

Once my teammates and I got into a rhythm, we were able to work very quickly.

Music to one's ears

If you hear some news that makes you very happy, you can compare it to the feeling of hearing music that you enjoy.

Hearing that I didn't have to go to the office tomorrow was like music to my ears!

Tone-deaf

Someone who's tone-deaf is unable to clearly understand small differences between musical notes. That results in music that's not so nice to listen to!

But outside of music, you can describe people and their actions as "tone-deaf" if they're not sensitive or appropriate for a situation.

Johnson's joking during the important business meeting was very tone-deaf.

To the tune of ~

This idiom is a creative way to emphasize a specific number or amount.

Our charity campaign received donations to the tune of $50,000. We can use that money to help a lot of people!

Related article: "Pay" vs. "Spend" vs. "Cost": What's the Difference?

One-man band

Bands consist of various members who each play different instruments or have specific roles.

But in general conversations, a "one-man band" is someone who can do many tasks without help from others — just like a musician who can play every instrument on their own. 

Daisuke is a one-man band; he programmed the game, made all of the art, and even wrote the music himself. Amazing!

Without skipping a beat

If someone can keep doing an activity smoothly even if there's a problem or distraction, it's just like a musician who can maintain the rhythm of a song regardless of what's happening around them.

The Covid pandemic had a negative effect on many businesses, but we were able to continue without skipping a beat.

One-hit wonder

A "one-hit wonder" is an artist who has one very popular song — but only one. 

In a similar way, an organization or individual with just one successful product or service can be described with the same term.

Steve showed everyone that he wasn't a one-hit wonder when he continued to release successful products throughout his career.

Face the music

When you "face the music," you accept criticism or punishment for a mistake or poor performance. 

The students were forced to face the music when the teachers discovered they were cheating.

Play something by ear

Many musicians play by reading musical notes that have been written down. However, some people can play songs just by listening to them. We say that those musicians can "play by ear."

In daily conversations, "playing something by ear" means doing an activity without a plan or preparation.

I don't know what I'm doing this weekend; I'm just going to play it by ear.

Toot one's own horn

"Toot" is a casual verb that describes making a short sound on an instrument like a trumpet or saxophone. But in casual conversations, "tooting your own horn" means bragging or talking about yourself with too much confidence. 

Carl loves to toot his own horn about how much money he makes.

This idiom is often used before someone makes a positive comment about themself in order to reduce the feeling of overconfidence.

I don't mean to toot my own horn, but this pasta I made is delicious!

Play second fiddle

Fiddles are violins, and in an orchestra, the second fiddle supports the first, or main, violin.

Outside of music, this idiom suggests that one person is less important than someone else. Notice that you need "to" to refer to another person.

Jake was tired of playing second fiddle to Max, so he left to start his own group.

Sound like a broken record

If a vinyl record is damaged, it may repeat the same part of a song over and over until the needle is moved to a different section.

In the same way, we say that someone "sounds like a broken record" if they say the same thing often. 

A

You need a haircut.

B

You've told me three times already. You sound like a broken record!

Related article: English Vocabulary for Vinyl Collectors

Strike a chord

If something "strikes a chord" with you, you understand and feel it very deeply.

I didn't expect to like this book, but it really struck a chord with me.

Wrap-up

If this article has struck a chord with you, book a lesson with Engoo to learn more! 

Friendly and professional Engoo tutors are ready to help you improve your English in one-on-one lessons 24 hours a day. Practice using these music idioms or study anything you like. Give it a try!

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